“It was his idea to have coffee at Starbucks,” she says, “but when I asked him what he wanted, he said, ‘Oh, I don’t drink coffee.’ ” Things got even more awful when they went to a movie and he left five minutes in to the flick.“The hardest thing is not giving up when you keep putting yourself out there, and continue going on these terrible dates,” she says.
Enter “Paper Bag Speed Dating” at the New York Hall of Science on Wednesday, where participants meet potential matches by donning the humble lunch tote.And the odds are definitely not in women’s favor, as there are about 150,000 more single ladies than fellas in the Big Apple.“You go hang out with one girl, but the whole time you’re wondering if the other hot girl in the corner is watching you,” admits Ben Roth, 25, from Midwood.Looking for long-term love in the city that never sleeps has always been nearly impossible.The problem with sex in this city is that there’s just too many partners to choose from, so no one wants to settle down.“They don’t feel stressful because you can get out of a conversation if you’re not feeling it, because you only talk to each guy for a couple of minutes. And it’s a great chance to see if you both have chemistry.” There’s even less pressure at Paper Bag Speed Dating, in theory, because no one is going to judge you by your face. “We all have our dating deal-breakers — whether it’s not wanting to have children or you have certain religious preferences — so this is a formula for success, because you know what you’re getting.” Hagans, who’s hit the “Size Matters,” “Beauty & the Geek” and “Childproof” nights, now swears by speed-dating parties.“I have dated two people long-term, and I’ve gone on a lot of dates from these,” she says. “I’m not proud of it, but it happens.” Amber Soletti, who spent four years looking for love in the city, agrees.“What’s hard about meeting people in New York is that people aren’t moving here to settle down.