“Swipe left if you’re under 6 foot” “Tall guys only!” “I would date you, but you’re just too short.” Almost all shorter men (around 5’9″ and below) have heard similar phrases, or seen them online.Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect.Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically." —Oliver B."Please don't compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head.
"Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there.Definitely don’t make self-deprecating jokes about your height or take the bait if she brings up your height. You have to be in charge, not care, and convey that you don’t need her attention. No woman will turn down a high value man, even if he’s short. That way, your height is out there and you don’t have to awkwardly discuss it later. Be original and valuable so they know you’re not just a number they (supposedly) don’t like.Own it if the topic comes up (see below), but don’t dwell on it. You don’t do this rudely, but calmly and with humor and charm. Guys like Kevin Hart, Patrick Stump of the band Fall Out Boy, and Bruno Mars are all short. Short men dating need to realize that they must raise their value (or project it better). And, women typically have, at least in theory, height standards. They are honest and women immediately reject them based on a number (before even seeing or engaging their profile). But, if you meet them online, find a way to charm and wow them immediately, so they can’t focus on your shortness. Also, add an inch or so to your height (but no more). Maybe, but I promise you most of the women fudge their age and weight.Being short is a dating disadvantage, but everyone has dating obstacles, even tall guys. Find a way to earn more money, become a manager or owner of a company, get insanely fit, learn to play an instrument well, etc. If you are high value enough (funny, charming, good-looking), women will forgive your height discrepancy when they meet you, if they even notice it at all. Oh, and wear boots to get your closer listed height.If you’re short, have other things going for you physically. Raise your “value” and you will be more attractive to women at any height. Once again, if you are interested in learning a lot more, check out Size Doesn’t Matter: The Short Man’s Handbook of Dating And Relationship Success, and be sure to browse the hundreds of free articles here.Still, short guys have to work harder and be extra attractive compared to their taller friends. Tall guys have a built in advantage just for existing. In addition, I’ve successfully taught these skills to my coaching clients, many of whom are short. They’ll work for you too if you give them a chance.This is because being tall is an indicator of attraction in and of itself. Short guys often lack confidence or have trouble conveying it. Sure, you may have good reason to be insecure and angry if you’ve been teased or rejected based on your height.It makes sense because short men are often bullied for something outside of their control (height). And, gaining confidence isn’t as easy as saying “be confident.” However, it is essential for getting dates.First, don’t whine or complain about your height around women.If you’re a short guy reading this article, then I don’t have to tell you that the odds are stacked against you.Every short man can tell a story of the obstacles he’s faced in the dating game, from being filtered out of searches online, being told he’s perfect, but not tall enough, to outright hostility from women who think short=inferior.