There's no magic cure for ADHD, but the right treatment can help reduce core symptoms and the issues they cause in a relationship so they're easier to work through."If you have ADHD, you need to find the right treatment (whether that's medication or another therapy), be willing to stick with it, and find accommodations so your environment is more conducive to your productivity," Barkley says. It's about managing the disorder effectively both inside and outside of the relationship for life.“In some instances, the problems in a relationship or marriage can actually uncover a case of adult ADHD,” Barkley says.
Barkley, Ph D, clinical professor of psychiatry at the Medical University of South Carolina and ADHD expert, tells Buzz Feed Health.It's easy to misinterpret symptoms for carelessness, lack of interest, unreliability, or just being a bad partner.Better understanding the ways that ADHD can affect a relationship is the first step to fixing those issues.Not to mention, even if the person with ADHD is diagnosed and treated, they still might hesitate to tell a new partner because of the stigma around the disorder."As you get to know someone, you might need to have a conversation and open up about your ADHD — just like any other mental illness — to help your partner understand and prepare for symptoms," Ramsay says."Hyperfocus" basically happens when people with ADHD can become so deeply focused or enamored with something that they can't let go or stop when they're supposed to switch to something else.(Often known as "being in your own little world.")In the context of relationships, it can mean the person with ADHD initially puts all of their focus and energy into their new partner — dropping everything to see them, showering them with attention, listening to every little story.The first few weeks or months of dating someone with ADHD can be very fun," Barkley says.On the flipside, some symptoms of ADHD, such as forgetfulness and inattention, could be mistaken as a lack of interest in the beginning — which could put off potential partners."When you move to the commitment phase and you start to develop a routine of interdependence, that’s when you notice the 'consistent inconsistencies' in the partner with ADHD," says Ramsay.It might start small: They don’t follow through with a favor or they get distracted while you’re talking by an incoming text.