"My boyfriend and I had been living together for a year until I moved out four months ago for graduate school.I have to admit, things have been rocky but for the most part we've been able to get past all of our obstacles of long-distance hardships and trust issues.I'm scared this might be the end of our perfect love."Oof. I should point out that our friends at How About We do have services for couples, not just singles…but I can't really explain away Tinder, so I think you're right to be concerned.That said, I don't necessarily think this spells certain doom for your relationship.I haven't confronted him face to face as yet but I have spoken to him over the phone about it.He says he's never contacted anyone on them and doesn't know why he's done it and is begging for my forgiveness!! I know one of them was joined a week ago and one has been active since November, I can't find proof of any messages or anything before November.Had some concerns about my daughter on social networking so browsed through the history on my partners computer.
But I'm still concerned about your relationship status.I'd bring it up sooner rather than later into your visit (after hellos but before any fancy, romantic anniversary dinners, if possible).Tell him frankly but calmly how exactly you came across the information (be prepared for some defensiveness, even if you came across it honestly), and then say that while you aren't accusing him of anything, you'd really like to know his motivation for downloading apps for dating.Moving away after living together, even for a good reason like grad school, is a big change.I think that the dating apps are the surface problem you need to scratch, but then you'll need to dig deep to address your future together, how you'll handle the time apart, and how you'll communicate any problems that arise down the road. We have been together over a year and have no children together but have plans to marry.We've been through the mill and back due to his ex being a cow over access to his child cos he's with me (they split 5 yrs ago) but apart from that we were rock solid!! Don't know what to do I'm bloody heartbroken x Aww Hun, hugs hugs!I'm scared to argue over the phone about this so I investigated my leads and found his profile to be deactivated but that still doesn't necessarily demonstrate his intentions on those sites.I'll be seeing him in less than a week for the first time in months to celebrate our four-year anniversary, and I don't know what to do and how I should address it assuming I even mention it.Since you're seeing each other so soon anyway, you might as well have this tense conversation in person, where you can read each other's body language and facial expressions.It sucks that it might mess with your anniversary, but I'm thinking you guys have a lot you should talk about face to face.