tell everything to, know better than anyone, prefer over everyone, have the most fun with), but I totally get that not everyone feels that way. Do you think she’d call Big her best friend, even after they were married? Her best friend is obviously still Miranda.”Miranda forever!!!!!
Okay, back to the original question I sought out to answer: “What’s with literally everyone claiming their romantic partner is also their best friend these days” has landed me in murky territory. I also think there’s a pop culture-induced trickle-down effect in which celebrities manufacture a certain persona for themselves and their relationships in magazine interviews and say things that sound nice, i.e.
None of my relationships last any longer than 18-24 months. Recently, I split up with my partner of almost 2 years (right on schedule). Here’s where the real trouble starts…I decided to give things a try with my best friend of 11 years.
He is, and possibly always has been, in love with me. I moved in with my best friend and told him we should be a couple. We are even building a new house together, which he is financing. Now we can have a beautiful home, and all the other wonderful benefits that come along with this great friend who is financially stable. You know you’d treat him better than any of these other women if he’d only give you a chance.
I think getting engaged pushes you to get to that point with someone, because you’re like, I asked another friend, Lina, who’s in a much newer relationship, how she felt the “dating my best friend” trope, and she made an interesting distinction about dating your best friend versus marrying your best friend:“When people claim to be dating their best friend but they’ve only been dating for a few months, it ends up sounding cheap because it’s like…okay…we’ll see!
I used to think my best friends were girlfriends who I could call at anytime and tell all my secrets, but now it’s him because not only can I tell him my secrets, but he’s also bound to me — or will be in a matter of months — and there’s a deeper level of comfort and trust that comes with that, when you’re being vulnerable with someone.After all, his son really needs a mother figure and since you make more than he does, he’ll be able to upgrade his home, his lifestyle and his future all by tying the knot with you. I won’t answer that for you, because I don’t think doing a bad thing makes someone a bad person, but I will say that if a man were to marry you under those circumstances, we might very well conclude that: a) He’s selfish – He’s failed at relationships and sees you as his safety school.And even though he finds sex with you to be disgusting, you should just be happy to be with him as a platonic life partner. b) He’s a liar – To begin a relationship under false pretenses, such as “I don’t like sex” is really a poor foundation for a future, wouldn’t you agree?I would expect that the person who really likes sex will seek it out in some form or another.Which leads us to the biggest problem with this scenario…I realize my perspective is limited, though, so I asked some fellow non-celebs in the midst of varying romantic stages to weigh in.My friend Anthony has been dating his boyfriend for a little over a year and a half and unequivocally calls him his best friend., I found myself unexpectedly hung up on the following sentence: “I’m lucky because he’s more of a best friend than anything else.”Though it had never occurred to me prior to this moment, the following question activated every contrarian cell in my body: What’s with everyone claiming their romantic partner is also their best friend these days????I blame pop culture for proliferating this relationship expectation to the point of ubiquity.Has this trope sufficiently muddied the definition of “best friendship? Hi Evan, I am a 37-year-old, physically attractive, kind and compassionate woman. He is a great guy and has been a wonderful, supportive friend over the years. I am tired of all these failed relationships; tired of moving in and out with people; and tired of the lack of stability in my, and my 15-year-old son’s life. Before, we were moving almost yearly, with no medical benefits, etc. –Elizabeth You’ve watched him go out with all the wrong women over the years and turn to you with his problems.